Dr. John Mining: "Why Every Man Under the Sun Must Have a Wife"

 

In a deeply reflective and passionate address, renowned family life advocate and counselor, Dr. John Mining, has stirred conversation across the country with his latest statement titled “Why Every Man Under the Sun Must Have a Wife.” Speaking to a congregation of youth, clergy, and civic leaders in Trans Nzoia County, Dr. Mining emphasized the transformational power of marriage and the indispensable role of women in shaping men, homes, and society at large.

Dr. Mining began by challenging popular stereotypes and societal underestimation of women—particularly those from rural or less exposed backgrounds. “Never call any woman a small girl,” he warned. “She is only small when she has not become the madam of your house. Wait and watch out for her.”

According to him, the perceived timidity, clumsiness, or innocence of women—especially those from village settings—should never be taken as weakness. “Marriage transforms a woman. The one you once knew as timid becomes the pillar of your home, the queen of your kingdom. No woman remains small when she becomes a wife and mother,” he asserted.

Dr. Mining, quoting extensively from the Christian Bible, stressed the biblical foundation of marriage, which elevates both man and woman to the level of co-heirs in life and eternity. He described the wife not as a servant or possession, but as a life partner, co-leader, and emotional anchor in the journey of family and purpose.

“Wealth does not make a man mature. Only a woman who is your wife completes you,” Dr. Mining declared. “If you can’t keep a family, you have no real say in the committee of nations.”

He also decried the trend of men seeking “unexposed village girls” to mold into submissive wives, arguing that background should never define a woman’s worth or future potential.

“Give that village girl an equal opportunity, and you may never see her back—she will grow to become your co-contestant in any field of life,” he warned, urging men to marry women for love, not for control or pity.

Dr. Mining’s message resonated deeply with biblical scripture, particularly Proverbs 31:10-12, which praises the virtuous woman whose value surpasses rubies and who brings her husband good all the days of her life.

He cautioned both men and women to marry wisely:

• Not for sympathy or status
• Not because of background or wealth
• But for shared purpose, love, and lifelong partnership

Further, he warned against abuse, arrogance, and condescension in marriages, noting that many men have lost their homes, peace, or even freedom due to their own misjudgments about the “timid girls they flew home to marry.”

“Women are not slaves. They are not rivals. They are God-given partners. Any power they have in the office should not threaten peace in the home—but a wise man will empower his wife and raise a queen,” Dr. Mining said.

As his closing message, Dr. John Mining reminded listeners:

“Don’t underestimate any woman. Not her background. Not her appearance. Not her status. Marriage is a crown, and when a woman wears it, everything changes.”