"Dr. John Mining: Preparing Singles for a Marriage That Feels Like Heaven on Earth

 

  In a rousing and heartfelt message to young singles, renowned Christian counselor and speaker Dr. John Mining has urged youths to embrace intentional preparation for marriage, emphasizing that “marriage can be a little bit of heaven on earth—if you’re willing to prepare for it.”

Speaking during a recent singles conference, Dr. Mining declared that while getting married is a good thing, the quality of individuals in the union determines whether it becomes a blessing or a burden.

"God designed marriage to work," Dr. Mining said. "But how you see marriage will determine whether it works for you or not. If you see it as a prison yard, so it shall be. But if you see it as a blessing, you’ll enjoy all the good things it offers."

He went on to say that "the secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person," adding that the highest happiness on earth can be found in a godly marriage—but only when done right.

Quoting from Ecclesiastes 4:9, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labour,” Dr. Mining explained that many marital challenges stem not from the institution itself, but from poor partner selection and a lack of preparation.

“If the people who want to marry can fix themselves, their marriage will in turn become like heaven on earth,” he emphasized.

Dr. Mining made a passionate appeal to single ladies, urging them to invest in becoming the kind of women who attract divine favour, citing Proverbs 18:22: “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.”

“Wives are not made in a man’s house,” he added. “They are made from their mothers’ homes. Ladies, prepare for the man who will find you.”

He described singleness as a divine season, not a curse, referencing Ecclesiastes 3:1: “To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.”

Dr. Mining also referenced a range of biblical principles that speak to the responsibilities of men in marriage. From Numbers 1:3—which calls all men aged 20 and above to readiness for war—to Deuteronomy 21:10–13, which outlines steps to marry honorably, he painted a clear picture of how God expects men to act with honor, responsibility, and maturity.

Citing Exodus 21:10, he reminded husbands of their duty to provide "food, clothing, and marital affection." He also advised couples to honor the biblical practice of a proper honeymoon period, referencing Genesis 29:27: “Fulfill her week...”

Dr. Mining concluded his message with a strong admonition to marital faithfulness, quoting Proverbs 5:15–18:

“Drink water from your own cistern… Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth.”

He issued a stern warning from Proverbs 9:17–18, noting that those who secretly partake in stolen pleasures—outside God’s design for marriage—invite destruction upon themselves.

“Do not steal the sweet waters,” he warned. “You will surely die.”

With a final charge to all unmarried men and women, Dr. Mining encouraged them to see marriage as a sacred, joyful calling—not a cultural pressure or emotional escape.