Single Mothers on Campus: Balancing Lectures, Motherhood, and Stigma

By Jemimah Wasike

Campus life is often portrayed as a season of freedom, self-discovery, and endless possibilities. It is a time when young people attend lectures, complete assignments, make friends, and dream about their futures. For many students, university life also includes social events, group discussions, and moments of rest between classes. However, for single mothers on campus, this picture is very different. Their university experience is shaped not only by academic demands but also by the responsibilities of motherhood and the weight of social judgment.

For a single mother on campus, each day begins long before lectures start. While other students may still be asleep, she is already awake, preparing her child for the day. She must bathe and dress her child, prepare meals, and ensure that childcare arrangements are in place. Only after her child is settled does she rush to campus, often arriving tired before the first lecture even begins. Throughout the day, her mind is divided. While she tries to concentrate on the lecturer’s words, part of her is constantly thinking about her child’s safety, comfort, and well-being.

Unexpected challenges are common. When a child becomes sick or when childcare plans fail, attending lectures becomes nearly impossible. Missing classes is not a choice but a necessity, yet it often comes with guilt and fear of falling behind academically. Unlike other students who can easily adjust their schedules, single mothers must always prioritize their children, even when it affects their education.

Studying is another major struggle. After a long day of lectures and childcare, most single mothers only find time to study late at night, once their children are asleep. By this time, exhaustion has already taken over. Studying while tired makes concentration difficult and learning slower, yet they persist because education represents hope. Many sacrifice sleep night after night, knowing that success in school could lead to a better life for both themselves and their children.

Social life on campus is also limited. While other students attend social events, join clubs, or spend time relaxing with friends, single mothers often return home to their children. This lack of social interaction can lead to loneliness and isolation, making campus life feel unwelcoming and overwhelming.

Beyond academic and emotional struggles, single mothers face stigma from society. They are often judged harshly and labeled as irresponsible or careless. Such attitudes are deeply hurtful and ignore the strength it takes to pursue education while raising a child alone. On campus, stigma can come from fellow students or even staff, creating an environment where single mothers feel excluded, misunderstood, or ashamed. Over time, this judgment can affect their confidence and mental well-being.

Financial challenges further add to their burden. Single mothers must juggle school fees, rent, food, medical expenses, and childcare costs, often with very limited income. Many rely on part-time jobs, bursaries, or family support to survive. Balancing work, school, and parenting leaves little time for rest, yet quitting is not an option. Every sacrifice is made with the hope of creating a better future.

Despite these overwhelming challenges, single mothers on campus remain resilient, determined, and courageous. Their decision to continue their education is an act of strength and love for their children. Education represents opportunity, independence, and hope. With greater understanding, supportive university policies, accessible childcare, and a more compassionate society, single mothers can thrive academically and personally. Their success is not only their own but also a powerful example of perseverance and determination.