Dr. John Mining Warns: “11 Wrong Things Girls Check Before Marrying a Guy”

 

 Many young women today are making marital decisions based on qualities that may glitter but rarely guarantee a lasting relationship, warns relationship counselor and author Dr. John Mining. In his latest message, he identifies 11 common but misguided criteria that, according to him, have led many women into unhappy marriages and lifelong regret.

According to Dr. Mining, many ladies tend to focus on surface attributes—physical appearance, wealth, or status—rather than the inner character of a man. “We need to identify and deal with these wrong foundations before they destroy more homes,” he said.

1. Height

“Every girl dreams of marrying a tall, dark, and handsome man,” he noted. “But tall men can give tall problems. What matters is not the height of a man but the depth of his character and his relationship with God.”

2. Muscle

Dr. Mining warned that physical strength does not make a man strong in values. “Muscles without morals can turn violent,” he said, urging women to value character over physique.

3. A Well-Furnished House

While a comfortable home may look attractive, he cautioned that “a well-set house can become a well-set prison if the man lacks manners and compassion.”

4. Fat Bank Account

Mining observed that many women equate financial wealth with security. “Some don’t even care how the money is made,” he said. “But greed will never turn to green; money without integrity can destroy.”

5. Place of Work

He humorously warned against choosing men based on their place of employment. “A man working in Access Bank may not give you access to his heart,” he quipped, stressing that a good job does not guarantee a good marriage.

6. Romance

“Romance fades,” Mining declared. “What endures is respect, patience, and shared faith.”

7. Type of Car

He advised that a car should never determine a man’s worth. “A man with a car may not care,” he said. “It’s not about the car; it’s about care.”

8. Foreign Passports

Mining noted that the quest to marry men with US or UK passports has led some women into painful experiences abroad. “A passport does not promise peace,” he cautioned.

9. Church or Choir Performance

He described it as amusing—but dangerous—when women choose partners based on their musical talent in church. “Marriage is not a choir concert,” he said. “Character sings louder than talent.”

10. Rich Parents

Dr. Mining warned that many ladies chase men from wealthy homes for convenience, not love. “Children of the rich can be proud or irresponsible,” he said. “Marry a man, not his father’s bank account.”

11. Fellowship Leadership

Lastly, he cautioned against idolizing campus fellowship leaders. “A president of a fellowship may not be a resident of heaven,” he said pointedly.

In conclusion, Dr. Mining urged young women to build their relationships on love, integrity, and shared faith rather than on superficial attractions. “A happy marriage begins with a pure heart and the right motives,” he said. “Don’t marry for what fades—marry for what lasts.”?