Dr. John Mining Advises Husbands: “Protect Your Wives from External Interference for a Peaceful Home”

 

In a heartfelt message addressed to married men and those preparing for marriage, family counselor and motivational speaker Dr. John Mining has outlined five critical boundaries that husbands must set with friends and family to preserve peace and harmony in their homes.

Dr. Mining emphasized that a man’s responsibility extends beyond providing for his wife — it includes protecting her dignity, privacy, and authority within their marriage. He titled his message “5 Things You Must Not Allow Your Friends or Family to Do to Your Wife (If You Want Peace in Your Home and Marriage).”

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1. Do Not Allow Anyone to Verbally Abuse Your Wife

Dr. Mining warned men against tolerating insults or mockery directed at their wives, whether in public or private.

“You and your wife are one,” he said. “An insult to her is an insult to you. A responsible man will address any form of verbal abuse against his spouse with firmness and respect.”

He advised husbands to protect their wives from criticism by relatives or friends and to resolve conflicts directly, rather than allowing third parties to attack her character.

2. Do Not Tolerate Physical Violence Against Her

Calling physical assault “gross irresponsibility,” Dr. Mining condemned men who stand by—or worse, participate—while relatives physically attack their wives.

“No man should sit back while anyone raises their hand against his wife,” he declared. “Only weak men do that.”

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3. Do Not Allow Invasion of Her Privacy

Dr. Mining stressed the importance of boundaries within marriage, noting that a couple’s bedroom should remain private.

“Your matrimonial room is not a public space,” he noted. “No one—mother, brother, or friend—should barge in without permission.”

He added that a wife’s work, business, and personal affairs should not be subject to unnecessary scrutiny or interference.

4. Do Not Let Others Undermine Her Authority

The counselor criticized the tendency in some cultures for in-laws to override a wife’s decisions within her own home.

“If your wife decides what to cook or how to raise the children, no one has the right to counter her,” he said. “A woman deserves respect and authority in her household.”

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5. Do Not Allow Anyone to Exercise Authority Over Her

Finally, Dr. Mining cautioned against allowing relatives to dominate a wife or dictate household affairs.

“No woman should need to go through her mother-in-law or sister-in-law to reach her husband,” he said. “That is an abomination.”

Quoting Genesis 2:24, he reminded husbands of their divine mandate:

“Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh.”

Dr. Mining concluded his message with a call to action for all men:

“Let no one wield more influence over you than God — and then your wife. A peaceful marriage begins when a man protects his home from external control.”