How a Woman Should Handle a Man: A Relationship Blueprint by Dr. John Mining

 

In a thought-provoking piece that has sparked both admiration and conversation, renowned relationship counselor and motivational speaker Dr. John Mining has released his latest guide titled “How a Woman Should Handle a Man.” The write-up outlines what Dr. Mining describes as “time-tested principles for fostering respect, stability, and affection in romantic relationships.”

Speaking from decades of experience in counseling couples across Africa and beyond, Dr. Mining emphasizes the importance of intentionality and mutual honor in relationships — particularly from women toward their partners.

“A woman who learns how to handle her man with wisdom, grace, and understanding creates a relationship environment where love flourishes and peace thrives,” says Dr. Mining.

Here are key highlights from Dr. Mining’s guide:

 Respect and Submission

Dr. Mining calls on women to respect, honor, and submit to their partner's leadership — not as a sign of weakness, but as a powerful gesture of trust and alignment.

“Respect is the oxygen that sustains a man’s emotional world,” he says.

Celebrate and Praise Him

Women are encouraged to be their man’s loudest cheerleader:

“Celebrate his wins, adore his presence, and be vocal in affirming him. Men thrive on admiration.”

 Active Listening and Attention

Giving a man undivided attention, especially during conversations, strengthens emotional intimacy.

“Look into his eyes. Listen deeply. It communicates love without words.”

 Support His Vision

Dr. Mining insists that true partnership means believing in and supporting a man’s career, ministry, or business goals.

“Behind every great man is a woman who believed in him before the world did.”

 Protect His Dignity

The guide urges women never to expose their partner’s weaknesses publicly or privately.

“Cover his nakedness. Shield his vulnerabilities.”

 Meekness in Correction

While correction is necessary, Dr. Mining advises it should be done in love, without harsh tones or humiliation — both in public and private.

“Gentleness opens his ears. Aggression shuts his heart.”

 Serve and Satisfy

Quality meals and physical intimacy, according to Dr. Mining, are not just cultural expectations but deeply emotional needs for many men.

He stresses that sex matters for men, encouraging married women to:

• Be responsive and enthusiastic about intimacy,
• Initiate occasionally,
• Keep themselves clean and attractive, and
• Understand the biblical and emotional role of sexual connection in marriage.

“A well-fed man — physically and emotionally — will have little reason to seek fulfilment elsewhere.”

 Purity Before Marriage

For single and engaged women, Dr. Mining reaffirms a strict standard:

• No sex before marriage,
• No kissing or intimate physical contact, and
• No living together before a bride price is paid.

“When a man gets milk for free, he won’t buy the cow,” he says bluntly.

The Power of Prayer

Above all, women are encouraged to pray daily for their man, covering him spiritually and standing in the gap.

 Be Tender, Gentle and Loving

A final encouragement: be sweet, gentle, and emotionally intelligent 

“When these attributes are backed by prayer, your man will find it difficult to resist you, mistreat you, or walk away from you.”

The Bottom Line

Dr. Mining concludes with a powerful metaphor:

“When you allow him to be the head, you — as the neck — can guide him wisely. Men honour women who honour them. It’s the law of sowing and reaping.”

The article has sparked conversation online, with supporters praising its biblical and traditional grounding, while others raise concerns over its perceived gender imbalance. Dr. Mining, however, remains firm in his belief that “honour begets honour,” and that strong women make stronger men — not by competition, but by collaboration.