How I Saved My Marriage After Postpartum Intimacy Struggles

The day I gave birth to our daughter was supposed to be the happiest day of my life. Sam held my hand and cried when he heard her first cry. I thought that moment sealed our love forever.

But just three months later, I started to feel like a stranger in my own marriage.

Sam became distant. He no longer kissed me goodnight. He barely touched me. We would lie side by side in bed like two people living in different worlds. At first, I blamed it on sleepless nights and the stress of being new parents. But deep down, I felt something was badly wrong.

I would try to reach out, to hug him, to remind him of us. He would gently move my hand away and say, “You need to rest, you just had a baby.”
Those words sounded caring, but his eyes told another story there was a wall between us.

As weeks turned into months, the silence in our bedroom grew heavier than I could bear. I felt rejected. I began to question my body, my worth, even my womanhood. I would cry quietly in the bathroom so no one could hear me. Friends whispered that sometimes men lose interest after childbirth and look elsewhere. That thought crushed me.

Doctors said it was normal for intimacy to take time after childbirth. But as the months dragged on, nothing changed. It was as if something unseen had stolen the spark from our marriage.

One afternoon, when I couldn’t hold it in any longer, I broke down while visiting an old school friend. She listened and then asked softly,

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