“My Mother Was Selfish Until One Solution Changed Her” Lydia Shares

 

For as long as Lydia could remember, her mother had always put herself first. Growing up in Nakuru, Lydia often felt invisible in her own home. While her friends shared secrets and hugs with their mothers, Lydia was met with criticism and cold indifference.

Her mother, Esther, was strong-willed and confident in public, but behind closed doors, she ruled the house with selfishness and control. Lydia longed for affection, guidance, or even simple encouragement, but these were rarely given. Every request was met with a lecture, every success was minimized, and every mistake became a story to humiliate her. By the time Lydia became a teenager, she had learned to comfort herself and to suppress her needs to avoid conflict.

As she grew older, the pattern only worsened. Her mother became more controlling, often interfering with her education, her friendships, and later, her marriage. Lydia’s husband, Patrick, often witnessed Esther’s harsh words and dismissive behavior. Lydia felt trapped in a cycle of tension, anger, and unspoken pain. She tried reasoning with her mother countless times, only to be met with resistance or emotional manipulation.

Friends and extended family often advised patience, telling her that parents are difficult, but Lydia knew that the toxicity was deeper than mere stubbornness. It was as if selfishness had become part of her mother’s identity.

By last year, the situation reached a breaking point. Esther demanded control over family property, verbally attacked Lydia’s husband in front of children, and even caused disputes between Lydia and her siblings.

The home that was supposed to be a safe haven had become a battlefield. Lydia cried herself to sleep most nights, feeling helpless and defeated. She loved her mother, but she could no longer endure the constant emotional strain.

It was during this despair that someone suggested she seek the guidance of Dr. Bokko, a renowned counselor and spiritual guide known for helping families overcome toxic behavior, emotional blockages, and relationship conflicts.

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When Lydia first contacted Dr. Bokko, she explained everything—the lifelong selfishness of her mother, the hostility toward her husband, and the emotional exhaustion she endured daily. Dr. Bokko listened patiently, asking detailed questions about family dynamics, past grievances, and Lydia’s attempts at resolution.

After assessing the situation, he explained that her mother’s behavior was rooted in deep-seated emotional wounds and negative energy that had accumulated over years. He emphasized that without addressing both the spiritual and emotional aspects of the problem, Lydia’s mother would continue acting selfishly, and the family would remain stuck in conflict.

Dr. Bokko then outlined a plan that included guided communication techniques, emotional healing exercises, and protective rituals to encourage positive change in Esther’s behavior.